Yes we do train people how to treat us. Boundaries are so important. For years i did not have them, and it was a struggle to learn how to start having them. Most people will respect your boundaries if you are clear, and if you do so in an unemotional, non-attacking way.

I had a real misguided notion about what being a good guy was. Ive learned to say “no” to people. When I say “yes” i mean it, where i did not mean it before.